After working with nearly 6,000 clients globally during the past 13 years as their career and life coach I have come across some common themes that clients are dealing with when it comes to managing their career and moving ahead. So, in this blog I am going to codify those these and provide the 10 rules that can help you and your career.
- Make peace with your past, so it wont screw up the present
Most of us make some mistakes in our careers, either of commission or of omission. Regardless, dwelling on those missteps and personalizing them merely creates angst and does not provide any value to making things better in the future. It is also disabling and debilitating. If you must revisit that past do it merely to uncover the learning from those mistakes. Use that learning to create a better future based on that insight. This way your past can only help you propel you forward and not suck you into the negative energy created by that episode(s).
- What others think of you is none of your business
I cannot even tell you how many clients when they first come to me have no clear view of what they want and are bothered by what others expect from them and from their life. For example, when I ask someone confused about what direction to take to move ahead in their career they often cite their relatives or neighbors of what they expect from them (ever since my childhood my grandfather wanted me to be a surgeon, etc.). What you must remember is that these people in your circle do not really know what you are about and what life will work for you. Only you know that. So, before you surrender your ambitions to the mere wishes of others take a hard look at what you want to do and go for it.
This rule also applies for not heeding your concerns about others views of your actions if you strongly believe that those actions are the right ones for you to take. You may want to use someone you trust as a sounding board and review them objectively. But, you must not care about the fallout of your actions if you have taken them after careful consideration and trusting your instincts.
Remember, people revel in gossip and if you give them reason to indulge in it, it is more your fault than anything else. Recently, when a client decided to leave his employer because things were not working out, he was all consumed by its optics and how his colleagues are going to talk about him after he leaves. So, we decided to draft a positive goodbye email and send it to everyone. Beyond, that what they said about it should be none of your business.
- Time heals almost everything; give it time
When you are engaged in your job it is difficult not to take how you are treated and personalize it in adverse times. Instead, I suggest taking anything that is adverse, invidious, perverse, and malicious personally and then dealing with it forthrightly. What is the difference? When you personalize something it means you are rationalizing what happened and then blaming yourself for the outcome (I wish I had not argued with my boss about that assignment.). Instead, when you take such treatment personally it means that you are taking charge for what happened and moving ahead in a positive way (see Rule #1). Do not dwell too much on the negativity surrounding a setback. Learn to move on and over time, youll develop a perspective about it that will be help you deal with it in a much more constructive way, moving forward.
- Dont compare your life to others and dont judge them. You have no idea what their journey is about.
Many of my clients come to me because they feel that they are not doing as well as their classmates or peers and have fallen behind in their achievements. In fact, one of the questions in my Client Intake Questionnaire asks them if they are suffering from Competitive Apprehension (friends are doing better). About 50% respond with a Yes to that question.
This is puzzling to me. Each person charts their own journey and there are myriad factors that influence how that journey shapes-up and results in the outcomes that it creates. If, instead of focusing on the outcomes of that journey, they focus on the learning and richness that stems from the setbacks and adjustments needed to recover and move ahead, they would have a much better view of themselves. I always remind my clients, who bring this up and regret their station in life that appearances can be deceiving. So, do not be fooled by what appears to you as a better station that someone has achieved. Instead, just be happy with your blessings and work on your own journey to take you where you want to now go.
- Stop thinking too much; it is all right to not know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect them.
Even before my first meeting with a client they respond to my Client Intake Questionnaire. In that there are some deep questions that ask about their views on their dreams, future, and past learnings. About 10% of the prospects never finish the Questionnaire and are not able to meet with me because they are paralyzed by what the answers might be to these deep questions. A small percentage also takes months to get the Questionnaire back to me because they think and rethink their answers to these questions. My guidance to all my prospects is that they give spontaneous responses and that we can explore them further during the first meeting. It is sometime easier to surrender to a free-flowing thought process and leave yourself open to seeking better answers when they manifest on their own or at appropriate times. Besides, not knowing all the answers is a good starting point for some serious self-discovery.
- No one is in charge of your happiness except you
When clients come to me it is because they need help to get out of some career tight spots, trouble, or pain they need to deal with. Some wear their unhappiness on their sleeves and are down on themselves and how the world is treating them. My response to this mindset is for them to consider themselves lucky that they have come to seek help in moving ahead and are poised for a turnaround by following some simple rules of career management. They get all wrapped up in their immediate setbacks and negativity. This merely prolongs their recovery. Keeping a positive outlook and being happy about your status, even in the moment, can help accelerate your recovery. Remember, suffering is NOT ennobling, recovery is! A positive attitude and happiness may not always get what you want, but it will bother the heck out of others, which alone is enough reason for you to be happy.
- Dont always trust your manager
I cant even count the number of times my clients were told by their managers about getting a raise when sales improved, getting their next promotion when they completed a key assignment, or securing a budget for a key piece of capital equipment that would improve your productivity, only to find out that it is not to be when the time came after meeting all the prerequisites.
When you get such commitments from your boss, first make sure that you send them an email confirming what your heard and then after it does not, remind your manager and move on. If this happens often enough transfer to a new boss or get a new job.
- Volunteer to take on critical assignments, even though they are above your pay grade
Every work group, department, organization, and business has its challenges. Most employees often wait for their boss to assign them a task and then carry it out and wait for the next one. If you want to take charge of your career look around and flesh out what is not happening in your work group and immediate area. Frame it correctly, so that your manager sees the merit of your taking that on for them to look good to their boss. Such assignments have two main benefits: You are seen as someone that goes above-and-beyond; and, even if nothing beneficial happens to improve your standing within your organization, it will help bolster your rsum for your next job.
- Get yourself a mentor and start mentoring others
Finding the right mentor(s) within and outside your organization can help you get a different perspective and fresh outlook in how your career is progressing. Mentors can open doors that may otherwise stay closed for you. Also, find someone you want to mentor. Both roles will help you benefit in your growth.
- You dont own all the problems in the world.
Learn to always smile, whistle, or sing even in troubled times. It will make your troubles more bearable.
Career management is an active sport. Take charge of your career by following these 10 rules and see how it works magic on your career.
Good luck!
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Dilip has distinguished himself as LinkedIn’s #1 career coach from among a global pool of over 1,000 peers ever since LinkedIn started ranking them professionally (LinkedIn selected 23 categories of professionals for this ranking and published this ranking from 2006 until 2012). Having worked with over 6,000 clients from all walks of professions and having worked with nearly the entire spectrum of age groups—from high-school graduates about to enter college to those in their 70s, not knowing what to do with their retirement—Dilip has developed a unique approach to bringing meaning to their professional and personal lives. Dilip’s professional success lies in his ability to codify what he has learned in his own varied life (he has changed careers four times and is currently in his fifth) and from those of his clients, and to apply the essence of that learning to each coaching situation. After getting his B.Tech. (Honors) from IIT-Bombay and Master’s in electrical engineering(MSEE) from Stanford University, Dilip worked at various organizations, starting as an individual contributor and then progressing to head an engineering organization of a division of a high-tech company, with $2B in sales, in California’s Silicon Valley. His current interest in coaching resulted from his career experiences spanning nearly four decades, at four very diverse organizations–and industries, including a major conglomerate in India, and from what it takes to re-invent oneself time and again, especially after a lay-off and with constraints that are beyond your control. During the 45-plus years since his graduation, Dilip has reinvented himself time and again to explore new career horizons. When he left the corporate world, as head of engineering of a technology company, he started his own technology consulting business, helping high-tech and biotech companies streamline their product development processes. Dilip’s third career was working as a marketing consultant helping Fortune-500 companies dramatically improve their sales, based on a novel concept. It is during this work that Dilip realized that the greatest challenge most corporations face is available leadership resources and effectiveness; too many followers looking up to rudderless leadership. Dilip then decided to work with corporations helping them understand the leadership process and how to increase leadership effectiveness at every level. Soon afterwards, when the job-market tanked in Silicon Valley in 2001, Dilip changed his career track yet again and decided to work initially with many high-tech refugees, who wanted expert guidance in their reinvention and reemployment. Quickly, Dilip expanded his practice to help professionals from all walks of life. Now in his fifth career, Dilip works with professionals in the Silicon Valley and around the world helping with reinvention to get their dream jobs or vocations. As a career counselor and life coach, Dilip’s focus has been career transitions for professionals at all levels and engaging them in a purposeful pursuit. Working with them, he has developed many groundbreaking approaches to career transition that are now published in five books, his weekly blogs, and hundreds of articles. He has worked with those looking for a change in their careers–re-invention–and jobs at levels ranging from CEOs to hospital orderlies. He has developed numerous seminars and workshops to complement his individual coaching for helping others with making career and life transitions. Dilip’s central theme in his practice is to help clients discover their latent genius and then build a value proposition around it to articulate a strong verbal brand. Throughout this journey, Dilip has come up with many groundbreaking practices such as an Inductive Résumé and the Genius Extraction Tool. Dilip owns two patents, has two publications in the Harvard Business Review and has led a CEO roundtable for Chief Executive on Customer Loyalty. Both Amazon and B&N list numerous reviews on his five books. Dilip is also listed in Who’s Who, has appeared several times on CNN Headline News/Comcast Local Edition, as well as in the San Francisco Chronicle in its career columns. Dilip is a contributing writer to several publications. Dilip is a sought-after speaker at public and private forums on jobs, careers, leadership challenges, and how to be an effective leader. |
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